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Jun

The Slump

I have found myself in an uncomfortable predicament.

A slump. A blogging slump, to be exact. Ever since my first trimester of being pregnant, when I slept during any minute free time that was available, I haven’t been able to get back into a regular blogging routine. Now I’m halfway into my pregnancy and have still not found my way back. And it’s not for a lack of things to blog about,  I just haven’t figured out how to get back into a steady routine. In the past, I’ve been able to (kind sorta) balance work and motherhood with a husband who is in school full-time. But this new baby is throwing me for a loop, and I’m not even changing diapers yet. Blogging is an important and valuable part of my life, why can’t I get it together?

Author Shannon Hale wrote a post about what it’s like to be a writer and a mother, and I found her personal experiences and routine helped answer a lot of the questions of why I’m feeling so blocked. It mostly boils down to time-filllers and knowing that it’s impossible to be available to everyone at all times – and this includes your own children. Uninterrupted time has to be set aside for writing. Rebecca Mead in her article in The New Yorker, “Writers and the Optimal-Child-Count Spectrum”, hit the nail on the head: “Any person’s independent productivity depends not upon the head count of her children but the sum of her free hours.”

Granted, I’m not a published author and I only have one with one on the way, but I still feel the stretch. I’m working on it. Writing even this post has been both therapeutic and motivating. It feels good to be here.

Have you ever been in a slump? Or have any advice on how you balance your work/passions and motherhood? I welcome (and encourage!) feedback.

 

 

 

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6 Responses to “The Slump”

  1. Jen Robinson says:

    I think everyone who has blogged for a while has been through some sort of slump, and/or what I like to call a struggle with Blog Focus Angst. A time when you wonder why you’re blogging, what you should be blogging about, how you want to spend your time, etc. Having a life-changing event like pregnancy (congratulations!) sounds like a logical trigger to me. Pretty sure I’m on the verge of a bout of this, too, though for different reasons 😉

    • Rebecca says:

      Thanks for your insight, Jen. It made me feel worlds better. I’m typically very hard on myself whether it be blogging, parenting, at work, etc. and need to get better about cutting myself some slack. Accept whatever triggers come my way and just go with it.

  2. Brandy says:

    Yes. This is so hard. I have two kids who I homeschool. I teach all the high school English classes at our homeschool co-op and one 4th-6th grade class. Keeping up with doing that many lesson preps AND my blogging is certainly…challenging. I have to say it has become easier as my kids have grown. They are both going to be in grade school this year and it’s like a whole new world. (I know this is not helpful for you presently, but really there is light at the end of the tunnel!) Most of my reading happens after my kids go to bed, which is getting later now that my oldest is 9, and I have to squeeze the writing into any free moment I can find during the day or evening. Again though, I have more time for this during the day now that my oldest is so independent. But yeah…when they were little my blogging was not so scheduled and far more sporadic. There are certainly seasons I think with kids where you need to make peace with not being able to quite do everything.

    That was probably not at all helpful, but hopefully it helps just a little knowing others have been in the same spot.

    • Rebecca says:

      I was actually wondering how crank so many posts out (and read so much) with your schedule, Brandy! I’ve heard from a lot of parents who also have demanding passions that it gets easier when your children get older. You’re less tired and have a little more spare time. Until that day comes, I guess I’ll just have to embrace the sporadic chaos :)

  3. Go with the flow. The stress of worrying about blogging frequency will start making it all a mountain. I find blogging flows…outrageously…up and down for me. Sometimes, 2-3 posts a day and sometimes weeks and even a month or two in between. I used to stress big time. Apologize to my readers for being absent, promise to be better and then…another desert. Now I just write when I am moved or have something to share. Your readers (like me) will wait for you.

    • Rebecca says:

      Marge – Thank you. I needed the encouragement. I do find myself apologizing for not blogging and feeling guilty, and I don’t understand why because I don’t get upset when a fellow blogger doesn’t post for awhile. It’s all in my head. All that stress and hoopla.

      I’m actually feeling quite energized now after reading these comments… Maybe I’ll *gasp* go write a new blog post! :)

      Thanks again.

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